Thursday, August 29, 2013

Forget Algebra, My Life Feels Like Solving Calculus Problems


How long will it take for two cars traveling at 75-80mph from Utah to arrive in Minneapolis, Minnesota a distance of about 1300 miles?  If our cars leave on Friday morning and travel two days, and my husband flies by plane on Saturday (due to being unable to travel by car as he just had back surgery) at what time will we both arrive into Minneapolis?  These are simple distance, rate, time questions which we just experienced as we moved our family (with the help of my dad as a 2nd driver) to our new destination.

 As a former aide who has worked with many Algebra students, I have repeatedly listened to students question, “Why do we have to learn Algebra?  We are never going to use this.”  A few times in response I delve into my life analogy comparing Algebra to the real world.  Algebra is all about learning the steps to solve the problems.  The more students learn the steps the better they can apply these teachings to more difficult problems. Algebra is constantly building upon itself.  The basic understanding of the foundation of addition, subtraction, multiplication, and division, fractions, and decimals increases the likelihood that it will be easier to understand the steps. 

As I would try to explain how Algebra is like life because in life there will be numerous problems to solve and there is no easy way to get from the beginning of a problem to the solution without understanding the steps and then working through the steps until the problem is resolved and a solution is found.  I don’t know that any of the students who I shared this philosophy with appreciated my comments.  They didn’t like Algebra, sometimes a strong foundation of basic math principles was lacking, and they didn’t want to work through the steps to get the correct answer.  They hoped for an easy way to get to the answer and they didn’t always care whether they got to the correct answer.

Sometimes, I wish my life had the simple Algebra word problems of time, distance, and rate, but my life feels more like the Calculus and Linear Algebra problems I did in college.  Occasionally, those problems would require an entire page to work through the problems and even then I would end up with the incorrect answer.  That meant I would be tossing that paper and starting the problem over from the beginning!

For the problem listed above about the time required to travel from Utah to Minnesota, Point A actually begin in California, Point B was supposed to be New Jersey, but when the New Jersey job turned to a grinding halt, I crumbled up the sheet and my husband and I began to solve the problem again.  A month later the correct steps were determined and we began solving the problem of moving to Minnesota.  Even then the problem wasn’t quickly solved, for we first planned to move to one city, but then for various reasons pulled out of buying that house and began a new problem until we found the right answer – to build a home with the help of my husband’s friend and coworker in the small town of Chaska, Minnesota on a beautiful and peaceful piece of land.

As a math student, I loved getting to the right answer and would diligently work until I discovered the correct answer.  Sometimes, it would engulf all of my attention  -- for the simple reason of just wanting to get from Point A to Point B, from the beginning to the end, from the problem to the solution with the absolute correct answer.  As a student of life, I love getting to the right answer and I have worked diligently to discover the correct answer with each problem I have faced in life.  There is no giving up and tossing in the towel and crumbling up the paper refusing to try again because there is no running away from life, problems do exist and always will, but solutions can be found.  In my case, I rarely find solutions the easy way, it has taken a lot of hard work, perseverance, a pile of crumpled steps, but oh how happy I am when I get to the right answer! Let the new adventure begin…

Friday, August 9, 2013

What a Summer!


About 60 days ago (give or take a few), our summer began, but this summer would prove to be far from ordinary as we layover in Utah with family waiting to move to our new destination of Minnesota.  After one particular difficult week this summer where every day some stressful thing would happen, and I would say what next, what will be the next challenge to deal with, I was feeling completely overwhelmed.  To prevent myself from turning cynically, pessimistic, or fearing each new day, I knew I had to do something.  For me doing something occurs by writing.  Through writing, I process in my mind how to approach my challenges and the things that transpire in my life.  Through writing, my thinking changes. Through writing, I find a way to deal with whatever life throws at me.  This time, through writing I discovered something amazing. 

Yet when I first sat down to write, I didn’t know what that discovery would be or exactly what I was trying to accomplish. One night after everyone else was asleep, I sat writing in my online journal.  I wrote every challenge I could think of that had occurred since June. I wasn’t trying to complain and I wasn’t sure what I would accomplish, but I began with #1 Ray injures his back the day he flew home for Aaron’s graduation and Moving Day.

The list continued…#6 I am trying to clean our vacant house and feeling overwhelmed with the task.  #10, 11, 12 getting three children ready –one for a Germany trip, one for college, and one for Girls Camp--all made more difficult because we were temporarily staying with my dad and two of them were flying back to California before their trips. #13 An unsympathetic police office issued me a ticket for missing a neighborhood stop sign at the end of a very stressful day.  The list continued on and on—we changed our minds on the home we intended to buy and had to reconfigure the city, school, and ward, we listed our rental house for sale, our Yukon was hit by the garbage truck while parked in front of my dad’s house, we decide to build a new home in Minnesota and then struggle to find a suitable short term rental, our a/c unit freezes up on the house that is for sale… the list continued to #41.

I finished the list and understood why I felt overwhelmed, yet I didn’t know what to do with this list. It took a couple days, but then I realized something incredible.  Through the list of challenges, I began to see the tender mercies of God helping me and I could almost match up each of the 41 challenges to a tender mercy.  Dear friends came and helped me clean the kitchen. Great friends in Northern California helped us get another rental house sold and issues there resolved. Though in temporary conditions, our children got to spend quality time with cousins who they don’t see often. My children had great experiences on their trips and were kept safe.  Even the ticket from the unsympathetic police office turned into the beginning of an essay for my creative writing class. We had an incredible experience being guided to a great area to build a new home in a small, little town, and we had an amazing spiritual experience in our first visit to our new ward. We sold our Utah rental house and finally we won’t have to be unintentional landlords.
Yes, there are challenges brought on by moving.  Yes, life isn’t easy, but once again, I have learned I am not alone and I wouldn’t change my life for any other life.

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